We impose

Humanity does not seem to believe in the live and let live concept. It seems to be against its very nature. Humanity insists on imposing. Its views. Its ideas. Its ideologies. And heaven help any of those who disagree with the imposition.

Oh, did I just use a religious aphorism to make my point? Little wonder, I suppose … imposition of the values that others value has become an integral part of what we “think”. From the blatant revisionist reconstruction of history to the slow, insidious, subliminal change-induction incurred through over-subscription to opinion-maker and/or blogger persuasive argumentation, we seem to be really messed up as to whether our own thoughts are really our own.

I have no clue if the thoughts I’m actually putting into words right now are mine, or if they’ve been instilled in me over the years, slowly edging their way into my cognition through subtle suggestion, or just hard-wired into the way I think by the socio-political culture of my upbringing.

Conspiracy theory? Who, moi? Perhaps. But there’s nothing to say that that has not also been imposed on me by my government. Or the opposition. Or the twists and turns of an eternity spent in the employ of others, who have their agendas and want “the best for me”. And put their arms around my shoulder and smirk and say that (emphatically) as they do their damndest to make sure I say “yes”.

The fact that I’ve often said “no” has been a tragedy in my life that I do not regret. But I do suppose that there are some people in Syria right now who might very well be regretting that they said no. Or those poor sods in Afghanistan who enjoyed a song and dance and got decapitated by the Taliban for their troubles.

The Taliban impose their very conservative, incredibly fundamentalist ideologies on everybody that is within their destructive reach.

So do we. We insist that what we believe is right is, in fact, the ONLY right. We believe with not a hint of ever thinking we’re wrong, that we have a monopoly on what is right or wrong.

And, no, I’m not talking about broad right or wrong. I’m not talking about pedophilia, for god’s sakes (oh, another one of those!), nor about murder … I’m not talking about black and white, that is universally accepted (except by a few perverts) AS right and wrong, I’m talking about the shades of grey in society.

I’m talking (for example) about gays not being able to form a family, because the government we have voted for (or against) must tow a certain very conservative line, and as a result impose. We saw this happening during the divorce debate. We’re seeing it happen (in mindless droves) in the in-vitro fertilisation argumentations. And now we have to insist that gays should not have a chance at happiness in life.

Why? Because we do not want them to have it. Because what they are disagrees with what we think.

Because we know we are right. And they? They are wrong! They have to be.

Because we can’t possible be.


7 thoughts on “We impose

  1. Mary mallia

    Hi Gorg, You mention the right of gays to form a family, and by family I take it that they may adopt children or maybe even manipulate scientifically to create their own children. Do the children have any rights to be born or raised by stable and normal Mum and Dad parents. Should a child call one of his guardians Mum when in actual fact he is a man or Dad when in actual fact it is a woman? Would not the children be living a sort of fake life? Should children be used as a tool to make others happy? I think not, raising children involves a lot of sacrifice and responsibility and the idea should be to make them happy and not the other way round.

    1. Hi Mary. Thanks for writing in with your opinion. I’m afraid I disagree with just about everything you write here, except for the last sentence, with which I totally agree. The problem is I know too many “straight” couples (who were sometimes neither stable nor normal – being straight is no guarantee for that, I’m afraid) who had children to make themselves happy, and I also know a lot of gay couples whose children cannot be happier. I could reply point by point to your posting, but won’t impose my opinion on you.

  2. Jose'

    I totally agree with your observations. However the Maltese constitution must first define “family”. Without a clear definition, the new co-hab law cannot move forward.

  3. Mats Uneland

    Hi Gorg!
    Like what I’m reading and I agree that we today, more than ever ever, are being influenced from so many ways that It’s hard to be sure of what’s me or not. However, isn’t this just a part of our evolution?

    All through mankind, every new idea, invention or belief (regardless of what it has contribute to us in good or bad ways) have it’s origin in one or more previous ideas, inventions or beliefs. We’ve just added some new features or turned the words around so they better fit us in what we want to believe in. Then we have tried to find others who believe what we believe or buy what we have invented. Before technology we had to rely on slower ways to spread what we had found. Today we learn something or telling people what we think by pressing “Enter”.

    Your part regarding gay parents is a great example of this evolution doesn’t work. When we fail to see the big picture and get stuck with tradition. We have been taught since the history of man that it takes a man and a women to raise a child. For many people this belief have become a part of their DNA. Religion doesn’t matter. It’s all the same. Our governments (we put them there – remember) tells us it’s wrong (were they do that) and some say it’s ok (were they do that). We either like it or not, but few of us act in order to change or at least influence they way we think and act.

    But the point isn’t if gay parents are good or bad for the kids. They don’t know what’s right or wrong when they’re born. They never chose their parents. It’s us that’s matter. The society. Because we have chosen to form it like it has become. Those against gay parents still say children NEEDS a man and a woman regardless if they are suitable as PERSONS to become one. Child abuse from biological parents (or any for that matter) are not allowed. And still we never question if anyone who can and will mate shall be allowed to do so. Sure you can loose custody in a court of law if you do bad thinks, but perhaps you shouldn’t have become parent in the first place. I don’t say we should do this, but we can all agree we have seen or read about mum’s and dad’s who should´t be one. Why were they allowed? And if any couple will make an adoption we’re scrutinized down to bits and pieces of how we have perfumed as humans so far. Someone else decide. This is CHOICES man have made a long time ago. And it’s only us who can change it.

    If we chose to see what a child actual needs, we will find that at the end they simply need love, guidance and leadership. That has nothing to do with gender or the fact that we are a product from a man and a woman.

  4. Paul Portelli

    Hi Gorg,

    Nothing new. Society has been imposing for millennia. Me, we and you are happy to accept it. It is when one does not agree with the ‘rules’ that one is fined, made an outcast, imprisoned or gets his head chopped off. Like you I am not referring to murder but to rules that most people accept blindly as the norm such as polygamy. Ever wondered why a priest, judge or magistrate imposes his or her dress code on others?

  5. there were parts i felt a strong connection with, in particular…”I have no clue if the thoughts I’m actually putting into words right now are mine…”

    i always felt that there are few, if any revolutionary ideas out there….many, if not all, are evolutionary. whether it’s observation of nature, of others…. claiming sole responsibility for some invention or success (we’ve heard something like that very recently!) seems to me like too much; inception of ideas rarely belongs to one person only…even though to be fair, it takes people with special vision and courage…not to mention lots of hard work too… to carry it through over the finish line…whereas the rest of us are simply happy fantasizing of what could be done…without actually doing anything about it

    ….and ironically you were so right when you said “We insist that what we believe is right is, in fact, the ONLY right. ”

    brings to mind a mind-set that seems to be so instilled and pervasive in this country… forget homo….here’s it’s more like ‘bi’…

    either because many people just need to find something on which to disagree….be it politics, feasts, you name it…”min mhux maghna kontra taghna” sums up the philosophy of many people in this country pretty accurately ….

    that…..or to go italian… “tra due che litigano, il terzo gode”…. the powers-that-be….or puppetteers (seeing how some just seem to want to leave decisions onto others)…who brought about all this rivalry, which led to hatred in feasts and politics….saw rivalry as a good misdirection opportunity …letting the man in the street fight and argue….so they go about their business, reach their personal goals, profit handsomely unhindered……. too bad we’re all so blinded

    hopefully i’m wrong about the way i see things in this country, because that would mean that i am the one who needs to change perception…and that i can do

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